Parenting is a journey filled with moments of joy, laughter, and cherished memories. But it's also a path strewn with challenges that can sometimes push us to our limits. As a mom I had many though days when I struggled to manage the complexities of raising a child with ADHD and sometimes this may feel like too much to bear.
The Reality of Parenting
We've all been there. Our children can gradually wear us down, pushing our tolerance to its limits until we reach that breaking point. In those moments, we may say things we don't mean, words that drip with anger and frustration. It's possible that, in those difficult moments, you may even find yourself resenting your child or yearning for an escape.
I understand. I've stood right where you are.
Did any of these things make me feel any better? No, not really. Did I often feel worse? You bet. So if you are having a tough day, I want to say to you, I understand, I get you.
Here are the things I have learnt.
It's crucial to recognize that these feelings are normal and do not make you a bad parent. They're a testament to your humanity and the immense love and dedication you have for your child. It's okay to acknowledge the days when you "lose it" because, in those moments, you're revealing the depth of your commitment to your child's well-being.
Practice Self-Compassion: acknowledge your feelings without judgment. Be as kind to yourself as you are to your child.
Look After Yourself: Remember that taking care of your own physical and emotional well-being is essential. Find moments to rest, recharge, and engage in activities that bring you joy.
Deep Breath Before Responding: On tough days, take a deep breath before responding to challenging behavior. This pause can help you respond more calmly and thoughtfully.
Seek Support: Lean on your support network, whether it's friends, family, or a coach. Sharing your feelings can provide relief and fresh perspectives.
Know You're Doing Your Best: Remind yourself that you're doing the best you can with the tools and resources you have. Parenting is a learning journey, and it's okay to make mistakes.
Parenting is a complex, ever-evolving journey that can test our limits and emotions. It's important to remember that the moments of frustration and overwhelm do not define our worth as a parent. Embrace the human side of parenting, and know that you're not alone.
PS: You are an incredible force of love and determination, and your child is fortunate to have you by their side. You're not just a parent; you're a hero in your child's story.